Fresh Water: Motivations

Fresh Water: Motivations
Pastor Mike Halstead

This week, we are looking at how we use our speech to motivate ourselves and others, and the detrimental impact we may have when we are not in full control of our tongue. Before reading on, think of a way that you have used words to motivate someone that may have not been the most gentle or positive.

James 3:9-11

Proverbs 15:1

Ephesians 4:29, 5:4


Go Deeper
1.What is the difference between a “gentle answer” and a harsh word?

2.How would you define the “obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking” found in Ephesians 4:29?

3.Ephesians 4:29 advises against using language that tears people down. How can we work to create a habit of gentleness and grace in our language?


1.Is anger always a negative emotion? If not, when is anger acceptable?

2.How can the use of course language be a detriment in our interactions with others? Would you say that course language is always sinful, or is it subjective to the situation?

3.Guilt can be a powerful motivator for taking positive action. What is the line between positive and negative guilt?

4.We all struggle with being critical of others from time to time. How can we begin to create a habit of being less critical and more wholesome in our speech?


This week, ask God for opportunities to build up others in the way that you speak to them. Thank Jesus for being an example of someone who uses gentle words, even when he is angry or in the midst of persecution. Additionally, ask close friends for accountability when you use course, unwholesome, or harsh words.